Hello dear ones! I hope you are well. Today we will be talking about Sabbath. My pastor and church have been diving in to this topic again and it got me to thinking. What does Sabbath look like to a mom? I imagine you, like me, thinking that is a great topic...for someone else. But Matt 11:28-29 says “Come to me, ALL of you who are weary.” If there was ever a group of people who are weary, I say it is today's moms.
In my church we are talking about the culture in which we find ourselves, New Jersey 2018. We all agreed almost across the board, NJ 2018 is a culture of exhaustion. We are unable to restore and refresh. We typically numb out with anything that helps us keep going, games, tv, food, alcohol, drugs (prescribed or other.) We have lost our focus as a people.
My pastor came up with a better prescription, God inspired I believe. It has some church specific elements so I will try to generalize for you. Please understand, as he explained to us, these are meanto be tools and not laws. God will show you what you can do in your specific situation as a mom and wife and daughter of God.
(If you are not yet a daughter of the King then there is a way that you can be and that takes presidence over anything else here. Children of the king get to eat from his table. His table is full of good gifts and it is yours to share when you love Him and serve Him as your Master and friend. Find a good guide to help you if you are just starting out.)
For the rest of us, who have been walking a while but maybe got a little overwhelmed by this mom thing! There is hope for us too.
What does this Sabbath rest look like for a 24-7 mom? You are one if you work inside or outside of the home. The elements for everyone that my Pastor lined out are these:
OK so I want to talk about these one by one but I want to switch them up for us as moms. I want to focus on the most important first and work my way to the least, in my mind as pertains to mothering.
Worship: of course, our focus is Godward. There we find the strength for it all. Worship is restorative too. Spending time at the feet of the king is the best. So what are some ways you can do that? Colicky baby is demanding all my time, or no nap toddler is running me ragged. What can we do? What has been most restorative for you prior to baby? Let's tweak it for today. Do you love worship music? Blast some over that colicky cry and sing while you dance and pat her back. Dance and sing with your toddler. Pray outloud while you pace with your baby. Also, serving a trying child with a good attitude and praying over that child can be an act of worship too. It is also Ok to put your child in a safe place (crib, swing, child proof room) and take a few minutes to yourself and pray. They can cry for a few minutes without fear that they will hate you or need therapy. (we have plenty of other sins that they will likely need therapy to overcome, oooh.)
Worship can be done in the midst of life and it can be messy and hormonal and in short bursts but it will be honored if it is from your heart.
I have so much to say on this topic of Sabbath I think I will do it in a series. So the bad news is, this is a cliff hanger. The good news (maybe, you ARE still reading) is that there will be more and it will be this week. Stay tuned readers. More Sabbath rest coming up soon. I hope that during this week, you are able to take a few minutes out of each day, or more, to rest and restore and refresh. If you get to actually have a Sunday Sabbath, I pray it is also refreshing and that you use it to hear from your Father who loves you. I am praying for you all.
As you walk right past that culture of exhaustion and give up the old ways, God will bless you. Practice, yes practice the sabbath. If you forget, start where you are. Ask God to remind you or show you pockets of time that are fit for Sabbath rest. You are no longer a slave, the sabbath shows others and reminds you, that you are free but dependent on a very good Master. Do the first things first, “Seek the kingdom of God above all else and He will give you everything you need.” Luke 12:31 (NLT)
Paula is a single mother of 3. Follow along on her journeys of motherhood and her fulfilling work as a postpartum doula